Who Are You Really? A Thought Pretending to Stay.
We live most of our lives answering to a name, a role, a personality.
We say, “This is who I am.”
But is it?
Who you were five years ago, five weeks ago—even five minutes ago—has changed. Your thoughts shifted. Your mood changed. Your beliefs may have softened or hardened. So who, exactly, is the “you” that you’re clinging to?
In Buddhist thought, this question is not just poetic—it’s essential.
The Buddha pointed to the concept of anatta, or non-self, as one of the core truths of existence. Alongside impermanence (anicca) and suffering (dukkha), non-self helps explain why we struggle—and how we can be free.
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The Illusion of a Fixed Self
Most of us grow up believing we have a fixed identity. Something solid. A core self that stays the same no matter what.
But that’s not what we find when we look closely.
Our “self” is a moving target—a constant swirl of thoughts, memories, emotions, habits, stories, and social masks. We act differently with our families than with strangers. We think one thing in the morning and another by evening.
What feels like “me” is often just a collection of thought patterns and preferences, stitched together with memory and emotion.
The problem is, we believe the story. We cling to it. And when something challenges that story—loss, failure, change—we feel threatened.
What the Buddha Taught
The Buddha didn’t say we don’t exist. He said the self we think we are isn’t solid. It’s not a permanent, unchanging thing. It’s more like a process than a person—a flow of conditions constantly rising and falling.
This isn’t philosophy. It’s practice.
When we start to observe the self in meditation, we see it more clearly:
- A thought arises—“I’m not good enough.”
- A moment later—“I’ve got this.”
- Then a memory—“I’ve failed before.”
- Then a plan—“Here’s what I’ll do next.”
Who, in all of that, is the “real” you?
The answer: none of them and all of them—temporarily.
A Thought Pretending to Stay
The phrase “a thought pretending to stay” captures this beautifully.
What we call “I” is often just a dominant thought wearing the mask of permanence. But thoughts change. Feelings change. And when they do, our sense of self shifts with them.
This doesn’t mean we’re nothing.
It means we’re not a fixed thing. We’re a living thread in motion.
And that’s good news.
Because when you’re not locked into being one version of yourself, you can be present. You can evolve. You can respond instead of react. You can breathe.
So… Who Are You really?
You are awareness watching the waves.
You are not the wave. Not the thought. Not the fear or the craving.
You are the space it all moves through.
The awareness that observes, allows, and lets go—again and again.
And in that space, there is peace. Not because you’ve figured out who you are—but because you’ve stopped needing to. But pause for a moment and ask yourself: who are you really?
YourWisdomVault shares reflections like this to remind you:
You are not your past.
You are not your thoughts.
You are not your fear.
You are the thread. And the thread is always moving.
P.S. If this message helped you pause and see yourself more clearly, share it with someone walking their own path. One breath of truth can change everything.
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